The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas ~ Review

My Review:

I have read many relationship books in my short life, but this one was definitely different from any that I have read so far.

In The Sacred Search Mr. Thomas talks extensively about making the wise choice concerning marriage, an how contrary to popular belief it is not the who but the why. Being in love is all well and good but all to often infatuation masquerades around as love, when in fact it is not.

I found this book very interesting and I found myself agreeing with Mr. Thomas on pretty much all but one thing, and I'll get to that soon. But I loved how Mr. Thomas stressed the importance of not following your heart, but using wisdom and your brain when trying to figure out how compatible you and your significant other really are.

There were a couple things the irked me though, and one of them was how Mr. Thomas seemed to prescribe taking things into your own hands if you are tired of being single and I thought it more than a bit strange when he didn't talk about praying a lot over your decision. It seemed like he was saying that if you marry someone, you should be able to make that decision on your own, and while I don't think that one should wait for "a miracle" but I do believe that if you are truly "seeking first the kingdom of God" that much prayer should be put into the choice, and God will guide your choice. So basically I felt like prayer wasn't stressed anywhere nearly enough, and maybe he was figuring it would be a given or something, but I thought that he should have talked more about that and also used more scripture references.

Overall, this was a great book, that I think is very helpful for looking at a relationship realistically and logically, and avoiding being blinded by infatuation. I think this would be a great addition to your relationship building library, and it definitely made me think very seriously about some things, and I would definitely recommend this book to those already in a relationship or those about to enter one, infact I have already passed it on to my best friend. I think book would be a great tool as a couples reality check, before making the plunge and getting married.

I received this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. Thank you!