Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman by Allison K. Flexer ~ Review

Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths
My Review: 

Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman is different from your typical relationship/singles book, it isn't about how to find the perfect person, or how to be the perfect person, or even about waiting for him to come around, and maybe best of all it isn't written by someone who is married.

I can't tell you how many books I read about relationships and waiting for your future husband to show up when I was a teenager and all of the books were written by people who had been married for years or who had married right out of college or high school. And I honestly couldn't relate to that.

But this book is different, in a good way. One of my favorite things about this book is that it talks about how being single is not a bad thing. It doesn't make you less of a person, and while I know this sometimes it is great to have a reminder with great biblical examples, like how Paul talked at length about how being single is actually preferable! And also don't wait to pursue your goals or follow God until you are married, do it now.

So many books I've read in the past are about waiting for The One, and biding your time until you find them. But is that really a realistic thing to tell people? Honestly, I've always kind of had the mindset that I'm not gonna sit on my behind waiting for what may or may not happen, but after reading this book I felt reaffirmed in that mindset. Because it's so easy to buy into the lies, and put your life on hold. But though this book may seem simple to most, and we say we know the lies and that they aren't true, there is something powerful in reading or hearing the truth about these subjects from someone else who has been through it too.

As I read through this book, I was encouraged and affirmed in my worth and my choices. And while not all of these lies applied to me personally, I could relate. If I could give this book to every Christian single (hopefully they wouldn't be offended), I would definitely do it. Ms. Flexer speaks honestly about the struggles and temptations to believe the lies like, "Because no one has chosen me, I'm not valuable." But she also exposes the truth, with scripture and experience. 

This is definitely a book that I would recommend. I enjoyed it immensely!

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  1. Wow! Thank you so much Faye! As the author, I can't tell you how much this review means to me. As I wrote the book, I hoped someone like you would read it and get the very same messages that you mention here. I'm honored that you reviewed the book. Thank you! And remember... You are valuable. You are loved. You are beautiful. God delights in you! Allison

    1. You are so welcome! I hope you write many more books in the future! Thank you so much for stopping by!


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